neyronrose (neyronrose) wrote,

here's an interview I've been thinking about

This was a few days ago, but I'm still thinking about it, so I'm taking it here to comment on.  I know I do that all the time.

Jessewave interviews William Maltese (, and here's the particular question and answer that struck a chord with me:

In your opinion has the advent of M/M romances changed how gay men are perceived by straight women? Do you believe that if this opinion has changed, is it better or worse? Why?

The transference of female emotions onto gay fictional characters may make gay men, in general, come across to women as better men than their straight male counterparts, if just because gay men, word-painted with the universal, albeit artificial guise, of being so often so truly kind, caring, loving, and considerate, have morphed into the female ideal of the perfect mate and lover. Is that a good or bad thing? I’m for anything that makes gayness more acceptable. If in the end, it’s a totally unrealistic way of seeing gay men, how many women are actually going to know they’re indulging in pure illusion?

I rant all the time about the unrealistic stories I read, but William Maltese puts it particularly well here.  I find that a good number of the reviewers I read like the more believable male characters.  Some gay men are kind and loving, some are jerks -- just like any other group of men.  Some women write a good male viewpoint, some don't.  I had a good discussion with M. last week about a lot of m/m stories have the men wanting to fall in love before they have sex.  "What man is actually like that?" I asked.  M. raised his hand.  "Okay, but a lot of men are pigs."  He wholeheartedly agreed with that, and we had the "men are pigs" bonding talk.

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