I was shocked to hear recently that currently 45% of AfterElton members are women. A lot of the guys were shocked, too. I never officially registed my gender on my profile, so I don't think I'd even be counted. The consensus seemed to be that women were coming there for Glee news. I was hanging around with gay men when I was in college twenty years ago, so my loyalties precede that, but I'm sure it's true for some members. I lurked on AE reading articles and columns about Verbotene Liebe and Alles was zaehlt for a couple of months at least before I joined as a member. AE is family-friendly, not that it would be too much of a problem for me if it wasn't. I figure it's comforting to some. What it means to me is that I have trouble even describing some of the books I read in family-friendly terms. I have resorted to saying, "Read the warnings on the publisher's site."
I explained about "lemon" and "lime" to Larkin. She was already reading lemon. She just didn't know that it was called that. I've read yaoi-influenced romances, but I don't even remember exactly what the order of the names before and after the slashes indicates. I know that for yaoi it means seme and uke, but I don't remember if it's the first name or the name after the slash that's seme (or uke). People get indignant if someone writes it and doesn't know. I just like it if the romances switch things up, but that's me.
There's fiction, and there's fiction about fiction, and there's non-fiction. I feel like I have a decent enough grasp on it. A bit of it is that I know I'll be told if I'm wrong. Just about all of the people I talk to like fiction and non-fiction. It just worked out like that. A. has his clubbing adventures, and then they become stories. S. has his share of adventures that become stories. The non-fiction narratives become entertainment, and A. and S. are well aware of it. I know it's people's lives, but they both enjoy telling stories. S. has an excellent feeling for whether something he says might end up here. My life is pretty quiet, but I tell narratives about myself here and there. Mostly mine is observation, though. The people who know me know I enjoy fiction, too. I feel much less constraint when it comes to fiction. Well, I don't feel that much constraint when it comes to S.'s stories.
I've said before that I want my secret love child to take me to the Bike Stop and introduce me as his mother. S. doesn't think it would become as funny a story as I think it would be. Maybe he doesn't feel like a leather bar would be a good place to tell that kind of fiction, but I'm sure people have told fiction there before. Maybe I'll get there someday, but not as his fictional mother. That's a story I'll have to give up on.
I told S. that I judge a m/m romance as bad if I start wondering if the author had ever actually met a gay man. He thought that was hilarious. I was serious.