I read The Naughty Bits to keep me up on the latest controversies. I saw what's presumably the most recent. I was already well aware there were transmen who were gay. I go with the common categories, but I know some of those categories overlap. I recommend reading the story "Butterflies and Myths." I think it's by Greg Wharton.
I also recommend Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey. Matt points out that his sexual orientation didn't change. He went from being thought of as a straight woman to being identified as a gay man.
I agree that reviewers are reviewing for the readers, and not for the authors. And there are gay cis-men on even the most politically correct of websites who will say that they're looking to date other cis-men, let alone on less polite sites.
I tend to be pretty essentialist in my thinking, and the phrase "gender performance" throws me, but it's probably something I should learn more about.
So those are some thoughts and observations.