March 27th, 2013

Maiden's Blush rose

rambling about TV again

I'm going to focus on the disabled characters on Glee and their disabilities in this post.  Well, I'll try to.  I'm sure I'll have tangents.  (I added a tangent at the end.)

I don't identify with any of the characters I'm discussing.  If I did, it would probably be Emma.  I don't identify with any of the women or girls on the show.  But of anybody, what goes on with Emma with her obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, and panic attacks is quite clear to me.  I saw one blogger say that Emma's panic attack about the wedding, the panic attack where Finn kissed her at the end, was triggering to her.  Now that I think about it, it's odd that I didn't really react to that scene with any identification.  I watched, I was aware of what was happening, but I wasn't there with her.

I watch her obsessions and compulsions, and I understand what's going on, but I don't have an emotional reaction.  I don't seem to have a trigger for it when it's Emma.  She's a character, it's fiction.  Yes, people feel that way in real life, but that's real life.  I'm at a distance from her.  I suppose that's also odd, but that's my feeling -- or lack of feeling.

I'll look at Artie's disability and mobility aid next.  I've never experienced paralysis, but I'm familiar with wheelchairs.  I worked as an assisted-living nursing aide in retirement communities off and on for nine years.  I know about mobility impairments and accessibility.  I went between using a walker and a wheelchair for a few months when I broke my ankle badly.  Grandma S. used a wheelchair in her last few years.  I know about transferring someone else and transferring myself, helping people bathe, using a shower chair myself -- I have experience with those things.  I've read autobiographies of people with various levels of paralysis and books that describe the medical aspects of injuries to vertebrae and the spinal cord.  So no firsthand experience with that, but some secondhand experience.

McKinley is for the first couple of seasons shown to be a place where you're considered a boy if you're capable of violence.  Things gradually changed.  Artie was eventually accepted as a bro.  Artie was always shown to have a mind of his own.  Artie wasn't thought of as gay for joining a glee club like the other male characters were because it wasn't thought he had a sexuality, but he quickly enough established his interest in women.  I'd had years and years of interacting with people who used wheelchairs, so I think I was past a lot of the characters at McKinley in my attitudes.

One of the recurring disabled characters introduced fairly early on was Becky.  Mom worked at a school for children with intellectual disabilites, including children with Down Syndrome, for a few years when I was a child, and she'd bring me along every so often.  The school was part of the county Intermediate Unit.  Later I read a number of books about Down Syndrome.  I hadn't had much direct interaction with individuals, so I think I was about on Will's level in my thoughts about Becky.  She was introduced in "Wheels" with Brittany helping her with money, which gave me the impression that her intellectual disability was moderate.  (That's probably an outdated term for classification.)

Becky did everything Sue asked of her, which led me to believe that she was obeying without full comprehension of what Sue was doing.  It wasn't until she did a voiceover in Received Pronunciation that I realized she was understanding much more than I'd thought she was.

Arguably, Brittany has an intellectual disability.  She's quite verbal, though, and that will cover up a lot.  At the time I watched the first season and first half of the second season of Glee on DVD, I was living with a brain-damaged roommate.  R.A. was quite intelligent and very verbal.  She couldn't handle money and couldn't do laundry herself.  R.A. covered up some deficits to a degree, while others were plain.  Sometimes it was hard to tell what was brain damage and what was psychiatric, but I'm pretty sure the difficulty with handling money was the brain damage.  The math skills were just not there.  She had problems with executive function, though I'm one to talk.

Brittany is described as living in a magical world of her own.  I put it that her version of what was going on wasn't the consensual reality that Kurt, Artie and Santana had.  I've also seen it argued that her comprehension on certain subjects is better than the other characters believe, and better than much of the audience believes.  I have a hard time telling, but I'm willing to believe that she understands some things that the other characters think she doesn't.

Sam and Ryder have dyslexia.  That's a relatively straightforward learning disability, from my understanding of it.  Ryder seems to be in the same consensual reality most of the other kids are.  Sam varies a little, but generally he fits in as one of the bros.

I'm sure I'm forgetting people.  I'll add more if I think of other things.

Added: It occurred to me that there were things once considered mental illnesses that are not considered so anymore.  In the 1950s and 1960s there were books like Homosexuality: Disease or Way of Life?  The author of that one concluded that disease was the answer.  Homosexuality was classified as a mental illness until 1973.  I think it was the American Psychiatric Association that decided that year that it wasn't. Dr. Evelyn Hooker was a leader in getting that changed. There are still psychiatrists and therapists who tell people (or their parents) that they can be "cured." Those psychiatrists and therapists are considered far out of the mainstream now, and harmful.  I believe they get thrown out of mainstream professional organizations now.  Finn told Artie, "Being gay isn't a handicap."  That awareness had even reached fictional Lima, Ohio.
Maiden's Blush rose

Wednesday so far

I got an e-mail from Barnes & Noble, as I do.  One of the bestselling books it had was Lover at Last, which is Qhuinn and Blaylock's story.  I went to the local Barnes & Noble and got it.  I read the first bit under my sunlight-effect lamp.

(*spoilers for Lover at Last*)

I wondered since when had Blaylock had sex with women, because I didn't remember that.  I remembered Qhuinn having sex with women and men.  Blaylock had had a boyfriend, Saxton, for a while when the book starts.  Saxton is Qhuinn's cousin, and he's a lawyer.  I am wondering if Saxton will become cannon fodder in the various conflicts the Brothers are having.

I made it to an appointment.  I had planned to meet up with S.M.  I experimented with taking back roads through the Main Line.  At one point I stopped and called S.M. to see if she knew which roads I should take from the road I was on.  She actually knew those back roads.  I got to S.M.'s house at the time we'd planned on.

S.M. had a number of crocuses blooming, and her daffodils were starting to open.  I'll have to bring a camera next time I go.

We worked together on the computer.  I registered for a garden club convention that will be held in southeastern Pennsylvania in April.  I helped her save and open e-mail attachments.  One set were scanned .jpg attachments.  I saved them and got them to open with Windows Photo Gallery, but couldn't print them.

A. and I were talking about chatting tonight, and there's another movie at the library.  I may just talk with A.  My visit with S.M. was a pretty productive one.

I'll add more if I read more of Lover at Last.  I was trying to explain to someone about the Black Dagger Brotherhood books.  "Zsadist is actually a masochist," I said.  "And if you smell baby powder, you know there's evil around."  I think it makes more sense in context.  Well, except for the part about someone named Zsadist being a masochist.  I love Z, but that's the weirdest Brotherhood name to me, considering.

Later: A. and I talked for about an hour and a half.  I told him about the disability and mental illness discussion.  He was following the Supreme Court cases.  I'd been hearing bits here and there, but he filled me in in considerable detail.  We talked about what I'd been editing, including the series with the space aliens and the tentacles.  I'd told him about the Black Dagger Brotherhood books before, but told him Lover at Last was officially about a same-sex couple, not a Ho Yay tease like previous books had been.  He remembered about all the extra "h"s and I reminded him about the three-hundred-year-old vampires speaking gangsta slang.  When we said goodbye, he said, "Beware of the smell of baby powder."