April 29th, 2011

Paul Neyron rose 2

Thursday later

Trip to B & N.  I got the first half of the second season of Glee and J.R. Ward's latest BDB book.

Various other errands.  I picked some lilacs, but they faded badly on the trip back to the apartment.

I came out to R., sort of.  On the trip back, she said her sister was a lesbian.  I tried to think how to phrase what I said to someone with no internal filter, knowing that if R. remembered, it would be either repeated verbatim to anyone she encountered or repeated in an R.A. version.

I said that mostly I dated men, but had dated a few women.  I tend to get along better with men, I said.  Lesbians don't like how much attention I pay to men.  That summed up my history and experiences.  God knows how R. will report it to others.  I didn't actually use the word bisexual.  I suppose I was minimizing to some extent, though it was all true enough.  Oh, and I said I got along pretty well with the gay boys.  Also true enough, at least with a good number of them.

We'll see how that all plays out, but I couldn't bring myself to lie.  Given R.'s mental capacities and that inner voice/outer voice are the same for her, I can imagine any number of ways it could go.

I was catching up on some online news when A. from Green Bay called.  We talked from 10:30 p.m. to 1:00 a.m. my time.  If we were running things, I think we would have solved all the problems of the world.  He was telling me about the day's controversies on AfterElton.  As usual, there was a discussion about the amount of TV time gay characters get.  One guy, who turned out to pretty much be a troll, said that the representation was shrinking, and that Kurt from Glee didn't count because he was a fairy.  Wow, did that get people going.  Also, insulting much?

The other one was Tiger Cub, in his Snails and Oysters column, saying that Dan Savage was biphobic.  I don't doubt that Dan has had some bitter experiences with bisexual men.  He's told a story or two along those lines.  However, judging all people in a group by your experiences with some is prejudice.  Like Tiger Cub, I acknowledge that Dan has done a lot for the gay community.  A couple of trolls there said that Tiger Cub was taking Dan's comments out of context.  Not really.  Teddypig did a post on this where he quoted Dan a few times.  TPig also went by his own experiences, though he acknowledged that it was different for women.

It wasn't all trolls, though.  There was just a lot of prejudice from quite a number of commenters.  Some were tolerant, some said they were trying not to judge all bisexuals by their experiences with them -- I was pleased by the acceptance from some readers.  Others are obviously going to keep judging by their own experiences.  I don't think there's much you can do about that.

Sometime very early this morning, I finished up my line edit of Jade's shapeshifter book.  I had already given it a good going-over, so I just had a few more comments to make.  It was a very cute story.

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Friday so far

It was a pretty quiet day, but I was kind of tired from all the driving and stress lately.  It seems that someone is trying to steal my identity.  (I'll do another post on that.)  They're welcome to my poverty, but I'm pretty law-abiding, and I'd hate for that to be changed because of what someone else is doing under my name, and with what little I have.  It's really pretty nerve-wracking.  If anyone gets particularly weird e-mails from me, please let me know right away.  The person or persons was trying to get into my e-mail, among other things.

I scrubbed the kitchen and bathroom floors.  Though we didn't do any laundry, we shook out the bathroom rug, and I had R.A. take the trash out.  I did the dishes.  We had Jasmine Pearls tea, which didn't keep R. awake.  Maybe we'll do coffee tomorrow.

Mostly I've been catching up online.  R. from Austria is on this kick about how many Americans don't know the difference between Austria and Australia, and has a "No kangaroos in Austria" sign on his AfterElton profile.  VeryCutePanda, who's Malaysian, said that he hadn't known there was a difference as of high school or so, but knows now.  R. added that there weren't any koalas or crocodiles in Austria, either.  Another of R.'s buddies came up with a picture of a koala at the Vienna Zoo.

I said that it was true that some Americans didn't know the difference between Austria and Australia, but that some did.  I knew, I said.  After his listing of what animals are in Austria: "We have cows, sheep, ducks, pigs, even fish, but no kangaroos!" I asked him if there were European wild cats in Austria.  They look much like housecats, but are somewhat bigger, and they're supposed to be nearly impossible to tame.  He hasn't gotten back to me yet on that, though he said he thought Wildkatze was the German word I was looking for.  He lives out in the country.  It's possible that there are some European wild cats in the woods there.  If we had a bobcat in our next-door neighbor's back yard, I'm sure it's possible that there are small native carnivores in Carinthia.

I have some idea of what fauna are native to the Old World and which are indigenous to the New World.  Horses came over from Europe, though they adapted very quickly to living here.  North America already had white-tailed deer and mule deer, wolves, cougars, coyotes, hares, and gray foxes.  The red fox was brought over in Colonial times because they were considered better for fox hunting.  They didn't go to ground as quickly as gray foxes did, and they don't climb trees.  (I don't think.)  I believe opossums are native to America, our only marsupial.

Well, that was a tangent.  R. works hard to educate Americans about Europe, though.  AfterElton is a site based in the U.S., but has members from Germany, Austria, the UK, Canada, Romania, Malaysia, South Africa, Peru and Uruguay, and, yes, Australia.  North America, South America, Europe, Asia, Africa, and Australia.  Worldwide, indeed.