October 5th, 2010

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Monday real life -- and a bit of web surfing

Mom had the day off as a comp day for working on a Sunday, so she took me to physical therapy.  It was crazy busy.  They said that Mondays between 10 and 12 were very busy, and my appointment was at 11.  The physical therapy assistant put the hot pack on my leg while I was out in the waiting area, and by the time the ten minutes were up, a couple of the therapy tables were free.  I got up on one, a therapist handed me the exercise bands (Thera-bands) and other equipment, and I did everything I could remember, and more as they reminded me, or showed me how I should be doing an exercise.

K. got over after a while to massage my ankle and the scar.  I asked about the pain in the inner side of my ankle, the left side of the joint.  The surgery was on the outer side, the right, or at least, that's where the doctor went in.  K. said it was because I was walking on it now, that I was stretching it where it was stiff, and that's why I had the pain there.  It's always reassuring when he does the massage and doesn't seem to feel anything different about the bone placement from the last time.  I'm still very worried about cracking something or getting it out of joint again.

It was raining and very cold when we came out of the physical therapy.  I had a hoodie and fake leather jacket on, and a scarf, so even though my T-shirt was of very thin material, my top half was warm enough.  I only had shorts on, though, and they weren't that great for a temperature a little over fifty degrees.  I was really chilled when we got home.  I put a blanket on my lap, and had grilled cheese, soup and hot tea for lunch.  The soup and tea helped.  Mom went up to my room and found a couple of pairs of sweatpants.  Fortunately, I have some pairs with wide legs, so I could put a pair on, push up the leg of the sweatpants, and put the walking cast back on.  Having sweatpants to go with the hoodie helped warm me up again, too.

Once I had several layers of comfortable clothes on, I napped for a while.  Mom apparently went upstairs to nap for part of the time I was napping, then went out on a quick grocery-shopping trip, mostly just to get something for dinner.  We had meatloaf and potatoes, with creamed spinach.  I finally finished catching up on Alles Was Zahlt, and did some editing.

We went upstairs so I could take a shower, and Mom found a flannel nightgown for me when I told her where they were in my room.  I was thankful to be warm and clean and well-fed.

Brent Hartinger of AfterElton took on the subject of bisexuality in his "Dear Pigeon Guts" column: http://www.afterelton.com/pigeonguts/09-30-10  I may have posted the link before, but I didn't have anything to say until last night.  I saw a comment from Max saying that bisexuality wasn't easier.  I'd discussed something with Max before, and Max rocks.  Another guy said that the site should have things for bi men, including the occasional woman in the daily memes.  If he hadn't identified himself as gay, he likely would have had his head torn off by other commenters.

I said his comment was very sweet, and explained how I felt about that proposal of his.  I was tempted to call it a "modest proposal."  As he said, and I agreed, you can go to straight or lesbian sites for news about women.  My immediate reaction to reading his idea there was to disagree, to think that the other sites were already designed for that.  Then I thought about how I like bi men, and it would be nice to read more about them -- or at least about some of the ones who do positive things.  I also explained my attitude about posting comments there.  Some of the other women who comment are polite, and some are very brash and at times seem clueless.  I try to stay on the polite side of things.  The men don't hesitate to contradict the brash and clueless women, but it seems a waste that the women would start those arguments.

I remembered Teddypig's link to the column of Dan Savage's that said if bisexuals were upset about getting prejudice, they should date each other.  We do.  I have.  But AfterElton does call itself a site for gay and bi men.  The editors aren't afraid to tackle the subject of bisexuality.  I was also tempted to comment that Brent wasn't afraid to ruffle some feathers, but decided to refrain from making the bad pun there.

I doubt the lesbian sites would feel any reason to do posts about what men are doing in popular culture, except if they're involved in producing portrayals of woman-loving women.  I don't really think AfterElton needs to change its focus too much, either.  It's kind of a difficult subject.


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catching up on Alles was zahlt

I caught up on a week over a couple of days.  From what I can figure out, Jenny's plane went down somewhere over Russia, and the Steinkamps think Jenny might be dead.  Max has some theory about how she's really alive(?) and how she probably didn't get on the plane at all.  The news is bringing Simone and Richard closer together again.

Since Florian was banned from the hockey team, which needs him, he's now playing as "Kai."  A new player joined, Frank.  I could see right away that she was a young woman, but Florian didn't notice.  She has a strong jawline and tries for a low-pitched voice.  There was a little flashback scene to her cutting her hair short, and we see how she has her breasts bound.  Florian saw how good she was, and got very competitive.  (*spoilers*)  At some point, klein Flo is supposed to start to lust after Frank, and start questioning his sexual orientation.  Should be fun for the viewers, to see the proud-to-be-straight Florian thrown into confusion.  Flo's sort of gotten used to how very gay his brother is, and likes Deniz quite a bit, though he doesn't want to see Deniz and Roman showing physical affection in front of him -- their kiss in front of the whole hockey team made him wince.  So Florian has a couple of role models in Roman and Deniz.  I can't see him really discussing it with them.  It would likely be in the running for one of the most awkward conversations ever if he did, so that would be entertaining.

Katja came back from Halle, and the Bergmann sisters are doing tons of sisterly bonding.  They sparkle together.  Ingo apparently paid the blackmail money the evil building inspector wanted.  I think that Annette and Ingo are out of money now, but Lena and Katja gave Annette some money.

Ben and Isabelle returned from their honeymoon.  Isabelle is still terribly jealous of Katja, and made sure to tell her how great the honeymoon was.  Tom came back!  I heart Tom.  He warned Katja not to hurt Isabelle.  Katja said she was concentrating on her skating.  Katja did graffiti, and Tom and Ben were inspired by the graffiti to make a computer game.  We'll see if that plot is subtitled in English, but it looks like it will be entertaining.

Max's foster brother returned from a short trip to Spain(?).  I kind of like Antonio/Rafael.  He and Max are very close, and Simone likes him, too.  It's kind of cool that Max has a best friend around.

EKP is calling this stretch of Roman and Deniz' relationship "Days of Fluff."  Why shouldn't they be happy for a while?  They don't have their own angsty plot, but I'm quite okay with that.  Roman's eating a lot of marshmallow Fluff, which may be another reason for that title.  They're really well integrated into several plots, so they're very definitely around, as a couple and separately.  I'm very happy that they're so integrated.  The younger generation of characters, with the partial exception of Florian at first, seem quite free from homophobia.  That's also pleasant to see.

So Flo will have good plotline, and Ben and Tom seem to be working together nicely.  Some of the other characters and their plots aren't so interesting to me as the Wilds and Ozturks, and Tom, but overall I enjoy the show.  I understand about two words in ten now, I think, but I believe that I get the gist fairly well. 
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caught up on Verbotene Liebe

Mercurymay is doing clips and transcripts of the Christian and Olli scenes.  They're mostly minor characters lately, but they're as beautiful as ever.  I love that Christian is getting more scenes working with horses -- or ponies.  It's so great to see him doing his horse-trainer job.

Elisabeth and Ludwig are getting very close.  They're not terrifically interesting, but it's nice that Elisabeth has plot.

(Added: I forgot the rather horrifying thing Tristan is getting into.  He's having Jessica dress up as Helena, little black wig and all, and having sex with her.  So he's pretending he's having sex with his sister.  I really don't think Tristan is getting any better.  In fact, I think he's getting worse.  I don't know why Jessica is encouraging him, except that I think he's paying her.)

(Also added: Cute little scenes today with Matthias, Nathalie and Constantin, as Matthias decorated the living room to have a suitable background for watching a vampire movie.  I thought the props department did pretty well.  Nathalie later has a dream of Constantin as a vampire, with a goofy cape and goofy little fangs, calling her to him and biting her neck.  If it wasn't for the goofy cape, I think he would have looked good as a vampire.  Those of you who are into vampires, critique the decor and Constantin's outfit: http://www.daserste.de/verboteneliebe/  Look at the Darsteller for who's who, and then click on "alle videos," then on Folge 3702.)

Nico, still probably recovering from the trauma of her kidnapping, is traumatized all over again by the death of the soccer-playing boy she was taking pictures of when he was stabbed.  She feels guilty, not helped by running into the mother of the boy at a little memorial site where it happened.  The mother screamed at her for taking pictures instead of doing something.  Philipp is trying to comfort her.  I don't see why they don't have more of her own family and old friends comforting her.

Lydia is pretty traumatized too, and that's perhaps the juiciest of plots currently running.  Ansgar played footsie with her at the dining room table, with Sebastian right there.  I guess they're lucky that the tablecloth is long.  The vorschau showed Lydia tied up and threatened by her stalker.  As some questioned in an AWZ scene of Stella breaking into the Steinkamp villa and attacking Jenny, where were the Rottweilers, I wondered.  Where were the Dobermans?  It turns out that Ansgar invited Lydia to a motel.  I think she might have gone to tell him to stop making passes at her, but she wasn't particularly resisting when he started kissing her shoulder.

Someone called, "Room service," and Ansgar was puzzled, but opened the door.  Lydia's psycho stalker chloroformed him.  Then he went for Lydia.  Lydia mostly backed up, but when he started to touch her, she tried to rack him.  He tied her and Ansgar up, Lydia to the bedposts, and Ansgar on the floor.  The stalker felt up Lydia a little, then went to take a shower.  He came back, and started to feel Lydia up again, and undress her.  Ansgar had regained consciousness somewhere along the line, and had been fighting his bonds, though he played possum when the stalker came back from the shower.

Lydia was saying, "Bitte, nicht," which I interpreted as, "Please, no," when Ansgar somehow got free of the ropes and dragged the stalker off of Lydia.  The stalker started punching Ansgar, and getting the better of him.  Lydia, who the stalker had untied, weakly tried to pull the stalker off Ansgar.  She pulled, and the stalker hit his head against the bedroom door.  There was a cracking noise, and his neck skewed to a strange angle.

Lydia had been mostly passive throughout, but this just added to her trauma.  I think she was saying that she'd killed the stalker.  Ansgar told her it was an accident.  He sent her home, and told her to go on and go to Canada with Sebastian.  He came back to the room with gloves and cleaning supplies, and I thought, "Ansgar is the person to call when you want to hide the bodies."  I wondered whether he'd hidden bodies before, or if it was just Tanja who had.  Ansgar wiped all the fingerprints off everything, took off the stalker's bathrobe and re-dressed him (eww), and started putting things in bags.  I figured he'd put the stalker in a bag, but that wasn't quite how it worked.

Ansgar apparently had called the police.  I have no idea how he's planning to explain a dead body getting into the motel room he'd reserved, but I'm sure he'll come up with something.  He certainly didn't show much grief, or seem in any kind of shock, not with Lydia there, and not with the police there.  Lydia was quite shocked.  She was sitting at the kitchen table, rubbing the rope burn marks on her wrists, when Justus came in in his bathrobe.  He asked if there was anything she needed, and she said no.  Eventually she headed up to bed.  Sebastian, of course, didn't notice the rope burns.

I don't know how Ansgar is going to explain the rope burns on his wrists and ankles.  The ones on his wrists were considerably worse than Lydia's.  I thought that if he hadn't re-dressed the stalker, it would have really had the look of a scene gone very wrong.  That could have been an explanation, but perhaps not one Ansgar would have thought of, or cared to give.  I just loved seeing him clean the room so thoroughly, and seemingly expertly.  If Ansgar didn't work doing business, legal and illegal, he could have a career doing that.  I think he still needs to work on the hiding the bodies part of it, though.

(By the way, I'd also love critiques of how the stalker did with the way he tied up Lydia and Ansgar.  Comments on the knots used, or type of rope?  I'm especially asking you, James.  Folge 3702, link above.)