December 17th, 2008

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thoughts on the "T" -- again

     I'm still busy with proofreading and editing, although the big project is done. :)  As I've been writing, this post has turned into more of my thoughts about the "T" in LGBT.  I really started considering the topic again when I learned that several of my favorite authors are genderqueer.  I was surprised about that, though I feel like I shouldn't have been that surprised.  I wasn't trying to pry, either, as it's information that they freely volunteered.  I feel like I should feel enlightened, but I really don't.  I already knew that a person of any gender can write good characters and plot, so there's really no shock there.

     I'm actually better about trying to educate people on that aspect of queerness than I am on bisexuality -- it's less clearly personal to me.  Unsurprisingly, most of the people I've spoken to have rather outdated ideas about gender.  If it's not something you have to think about day to day, it's pretty much off their radar.  It's been on mine for some years now, on and off.

     I've read quite a number of non-fiction books by trans and genderqueer folks, so I think I'm pretty good on the concepts, although I'm not much good on remembering the neutral gender pronouns.  I do have a commitment to use the pronoun the person in question wants to use.  At the very least, it only seems to be the polite thing to do.  I don't have a heck of a lot of experience with genderqueerness in real life.  I've been friends with a couple of transwomen, and spoken to a couple of transmen.  I still have trouble with why someone in a male body would wish to have a female body, though I have no trouble with why someone in a female body would prefer to have a male one.  I figure that means that I have my share of gender dysphoria.  I'm well aware that I come across as femme when I'm wearing flannel shirts and construction boots, even though I'd just as soon look somewhat more androgynous.  I've done recent posts on being attracted to androgynous men and butch women.  I can't really explain that -- I just go with it. 

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books on a budget

     Too damn talkative today, but trying not to say anything too horrible.  Where do I get most of my books?  Well, I was getting a lot from Amazon, but that contributed a fair amount to my nasty credit card debt.  For GLBT books, I've been trying in the past several months to get them from Giovanni's Room, although it's not that easy for me to get to Philadelphia.  I won't drive on Route 76, or in the city, so my choice is to take the train, which really isn't bad from where I live.  I just get nervous about the beggars at the Philadelphia train stations.  I get paperbacks from the library, but then I end up not reading them in time, and renewing them, and eventually running up fines, at which point I decide it's easier to just buy the books.  I get some from the secondhand bookstore where I volunteer.  I get some from the local chain bookstores, and some from the local independent bookstore.

     I've really gotten to where I'll stay with my favorite authors and get their books, or particular series of theirs.  I can be persuaded by glowing reviews from certain bloggers to try a new author, or at least put the books on my "get it when I have the money" list.  Fortunately, the mainstream romances are mostly available at the library.

More tomorrow...