neyronrose (neyronrose) wrote,

terminology and debate

     I'm not seeking out controversy, honestly.  I'm just happening upon disagreements on some of the blogs I read.  It's so interesting to me to get the varying reactions of men as they realize what women are reading.  The gay men I talk to are mostly amused to hear about what I read.  They don't seem to find it threatening at all.  I've got to ask them what they think of a book with the word "cocksucker" in the title.  I remember some discussion on this word when I was in college.  I've never felt insulted by being called that name.  Admittedly, it's always been said to me fondly, or by guys who self-identified with the term.

     I just see a couple sides to the "exploitation" argument, honestly.  Yes, I think that some m/m writers are exploiting a trend.  I think more are writing caringly about gay characters, though the authors' skill levels vary widely.  But there are certainly a fair number of gay men who exploit the sexuality of their peers and/or themselves.  Not that that justifies anyone doing it.  I'm just saying that no community is completely pure here.  Do I think that as m/m romance and erotica become better known, they'll stir up more controversy?  Sure.  I think the reaction will come more from fundamentalist religious groups as they realize that women are enjoying these books.  Because it's "promoting a gay lifestyle."  I just can't see much opposition coming from gay men in general.

     There's an interesting dynamic at play here, as you get probably a large percentage of women readers who are closeted about their tastes in reading materials.  That's got to give them some insight into what a lot of queer people go through.  And whatever skill level the writer has, the subject matter itself brings up the question of gay rights.  I'm sure some readers stay completely apolitical.  But I think others move towards advocating more tolerance of sexual minorities.  So many of these women readers seem to be married, with children.  A certain percentage of those children will be gay -- I'm definitely one of those who believe that no matter what parents do or don't do, some kids will be gay -- and maybe reading books with decent gay characters will help those mothers accept their children for who they are.

     Some writers are going to be more responsible than others, but I think those who write realistic, human heroes, people the reader can identify with, truly are good allies to the gay community.
Tags: gay-related, m/m, reading

  • Wednesday so far

    I went to bed at 1:00 a.m. and woke at 10:20 a.m. I read The Mechanical Chrysanthemums. A few hours later: Mom and I went to get spring water. We…

  • Monday so far

    I conked out around 1:00 a.m. and got up a little before 10:00 a.m. The Big Gay Fiction Giveaway is back.…

  • Sunday

    I conked out at 10:00 p.m. and woke at 10:00 a.m. I reread some more of the Whybourne and Griffin books. I texted with J., WhiteSheepCBD and A.…

  • Post a new comment


    Anonymous comments are disabled in this journal

    default userpic

    Your IP address will be recorded