The EKP ladies are setting fairly strict rules for their particular community of the fandom. It's their thing, so that's fine. I read spoilers that were for shows that were several weeks ahead, and I wish I'd had a lot more warning that that entry had major spoilers. Now I'll know what's going to happen, and it won't be a slow surprise.
They don't want to talk about Verbotene Liebe. That's fine, too. It's their community. If I get into commenting, which I probably will sooner or later, I'll try to follow their assorted rules. The "if you watch our clips of the show, you have to go by these rules" thing is really going against my nature.
They seem to expect people to contribute fanfiction, fan art, and fan videos, and otherwise be total participants in the fandom. I just want to watch and understand the show. I edit original fiction. If I thought I could write decent fiction, it would be original fiction. At this point, I feel like I could rewrite stories, but not come up with them in the first place. I'm technologically stupid, so videos are out. Besides, I think that pretty much all of the slow-motion kisses have been done to various songs already.
I'm really happy just being completely independent here in my own place. I don't have to do anything but gush or agonize about the plots and characters as I see fit. Actually, I'm choosing to do that. I'll talk quite a lot about Verbotene Liebe. I may be new to that fandom, but I've become a big fan of Christian and Olli. I'm all caught up, and I love both the characters. I think that qualifies me to be part of that community, too. Hell, I'm bisexual -- I can appreciate different things on their own merits.
If you say you're choosing to be into only one fandom for whatever reason, that's your thing. If you like a bunch of fandoms, that's cool, too. I guess because I came into this all by way of original fiction, I don't get the fandom/fanfiction rules. For me, getting locked into only being into one thing would be like liking only one book. So I'll lurk some on YouTube, and comment on things here.
It's my gardening journal, it's my journal for what I'm reading, it's my journal for real-life GLBT things going on, it's become my journal for soap operas, and it's always been my journal for rambling on about whatever. It works very well for me. I'm surprised other people read it, but that's kind of cool.
Added: Wow, I was trying not to sound cranky, but I don't think I succeeded. It was more of a "that's them, I'm going to do my own thing" kind of rant.